Are you on a mission to let out that inner goddess? This is a safe space. I’m on a journey- a feminine journey to be exact. Maybe you weren’t raised in such a feminine culture, but it doesn’t mean you can’t step into it and dominate. [note to self]
Ask someone what it means to be feminine and they’d probably think of a ton of girly objects and all things pink. Maybe that is what being feminine is… Probably not.
There are certain things I plan to do in my life to dive into this feminine journey. I’m using this space to document how that’s going and what I intend to do along the way.
It has already begun. Below contains my goals, priorities, and something extra- keep reading to find out.
This post is all about my feminine journey.
Feminine Journey: Goals
1. Be my true self
I grew up with brothers. I have one biological brother, 2 twin step-brothers, and cousins who are so close to me, they are essentially brothers as well. My family does consist of women, but if I’m being honest, they aren’t the most feminine women either.
We had to be tough. We grew up in the hood of New Orleans, La. Taking care of yourself and your family is the number 1 priority. You can’t appear weak. Being weak is simply unacceptable.
When growing up in an environment like that, it certainly brings out the masculine qualities in you. Nothing is wrong with having masculine qualities. It keeps you out of trouble at best if you ever need to defend yourself, but when it’s time to sit back and just be you (off-guard), it’s hard to make the switch.
I’ve always envisioned myself in the most feminine ways possible. Sometimes I imagine myself being swooned by a handsome man. He buys me flowers and opens every door for me and blah, but on the surface, I’m tough as nails.
I’m sure I have a “I don’t need you to open the door for me” vibe. It’s not on purpose, but when you’ve lived alone, traveled alone, and done several life things alone, it changes you.
I highly recommend actually! Nonetheless, the journey begins.
I want to be that woman that I know I can be. The one I’ve always known myself to be. She’s the person who I envision in my head when I think of my best self.
2. Make my own pleasure a priority
Yes. I matter. What does Jerrilyn want to do? Are you sure you want to do that? Forget what everyone else needs just for a moment.
People in this world are selfish. Sometimes we learn the hard way that people are only really looking out for themselves. Spare yourself by taking care of yourself.
It’s not weird to put your own needs first. I’ve recently discovered that it’s worse to NOT put your own needs first. At the end of the day, all you have is you. You have to sleep with your own thoughts at night. Let them be good thoughts.
It feels good to put your own needs first. Being on a feminine journey requires you to truly pause and think about the things that truly bring you pleasure, what you enjoy doing, and how you really feel.
Don’t feel bad or ashamed. It’s healthy to take care of you. Every therapist probably would recommend it- unless you have a problem caring for others. You see, my problem is I care TOO much about others. No. Not anymore.
3. Prioritize health and beauty
As cringy as this may sound, I never really prioritized how I looked. I never wanted to do too much or appear to have tried too hard. I thought it would be best to wear colors that helped me blend in with the crowd, or not wear things that would truly bring out my curves or toned body.
Like, I worked out every day just to hide my body. It doesn’t make any sense.
When growing up, if I ever changed my hairstyle or did something new, I would instantly get a review about it from my brothers or dad. My dad would comment that my shorts were too short or that I needed a perm when I went natural.
Those things change a person. Well- I don’t choose that. I listened to those negative comments for too long. It has gotten me nowhere. I do not have internal peace because of it. I’m changing for the better- hence the feminine journey.
I will take care of my hair, nails, skin, and body (inside & outside) by prioritizing dental and physical hygiene and paying more attention to what I eat.
I often found myself being lazy in this area of my life. If I was too sleepy at night, I might skip out on flossing, but as I’ve learned from reading books about habits, if you continue to allow yourself to make errors daily, you will continue to make them.
No more. I want good habits to be ingrained in me so that even if I lived my life on autopilot, it’d still be pretty great and well taken care of.
4. Discover my style & dress accordingly
I never knew how to dress. I’m not gonna lie. Back in the day, being told, “You can dress” was a HUGE compliment. It still is to this day. Well, unfortunately when the first time you buy new clothes for yourself happens during your freshman year of college, it can delay some things.
Most girls that I knew my age regularly went to the mall and bought new outfits. My friends were people who often wore something new for every occasion. I was so jealous of that lifestyle. I couldn’t afford to do any like that until I got to college. By then, it already felt too late… That was almost 5 years ago at this point and I’m still in the beginning stages.
This is why I’m here.
All that is to say, I’m really prioritizing my outfits, how I look, and what I wear. Quality always.
In closing,
If you’re interested in this then feel free to keep up with my feminine journey. Maybe you’ll also learn a thing or two.
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Happy growth season!
